Studies has been putting me away from this blog and it feels like the past few blog entries were more of "fillers" and nothing much in depth. So, I had already have this thought and questions in my mind for a very long while, and today particularly I had the urge to share my burden, I'm not sure if you have thought about it yourself, but I guess it's not possible to say that we never think about it, but it's more like the thing we know and wonder why, but we never really care if we knew the answer or not. Do enlighten me by leaving a comment, thank you very much!
Here's the scenario:
"A couple in a relationship has this argument because the guy thinks that the girl is not giving him enough security a.k.a, hanging out with guys, most of the time. Messaging other guys. (vice versa). The girl ensures him that nothing is going on and that he should trust her. But, by telling the guy to trust her, while her actions clearly doesn't justify that she is actually giving him security, the guy will think she's a hypocrite, and furthermore feel insecure, right?"
I told this to my sister, then she told me, yeah, I'm also having this kinda problem, and she came out with a statement saying,
"but it is because I have given him the assurance that they can be able to trust me, that is why i know that i won't be attracted to my other guy friends and will not betray the trust that I've given my partner.So why are they so paranoid about it.
I get her drift, but then again, they ask us not to feel that way, but their actions just MAKES it feel that way, insecure. So if this is the case, where do we go from here? Do we just continue as it is and really trust our partner (not to say we have an option), or do we (the one who supposedly isn't giving enough security) do something about it, and stop hanging out with our other gender friends because it affects our partner too much.
Anything to add on? Comments are welcome and would really help. =)
Get ya minds thinking yo!
Monday, June 18, 2007
Tuesday, June 12, 2007
Sleepless nights, and wikipedia
I've always wanted to know about tomorrow, what would happen tomorrow, would I wake up to a rainy day? Would I be involve in a accident? Would my parents surprise me with a new camera?
In this world, there are just too many what ifs, and maybes, that sometimes I wish we hadn't have the free will to choose. Which would make things easier. Life being a routine, without us being able to make decision that are considered wrong because we've got no choice, therefore we won't rant over the wrong decisions, or regret over things which we had done, and think of the "What if I did it this way" or "maybe if I have done it this way". No such nonsense. For once, I would just like to experience life being a robot. Not literally, because robots don't have life. But yeah, just being emotionless.
I've had troubles sleeping the past few days, and wikipedia has played a major share in occupying my time! Searching about KLIA, to Petronas twin towers, to famous celebrities, to Petaling Jaya, to who won the French Open and many more, but there was one i found really interesting, I was looking for the highest paid athlete, and Tiger woods came.
I found this chart of his earning pretty interesting.
In this world, there are just too many what ifs, and maybes, that sometimes I wish we hadn't have the free will to choose. Which would make things easier. Life being a routine, without us being able to make decision that are considered wrong because we've got no choice, therefore we won't rant over the wrong decisions, or regret over things which we had done, and think of the "What if I did it this way" or "maybe if I have done it this way". No such nonsense. For once, I would just like to experience life being a robot. Not literally, because robots don't have life. But yeah, just being emotionless.
I've had troubles sleeping the past few days, and wikipedia has played a major share in occupying my time! Searching about KLIA, to Petronas twin towers, to famous celebrities, to Petaling Jaya, to who won the French Open and many more, but there was one i found really interesting, I was looking for the highest paid athlete, and Tiger woods came.
I found this chart of his earning pretty interesting.
i knew playing golf could earn loads of money, but never did i thought it would be this much!
Appearance also got fee one ah!?!
Appearance also got fee one ah!?!I think the charts are for results until the year 2005. He might have made more after that.
It's projected that Tiger woods would break the billion mark by 2010 if this continues. Haha, I should go back and play golf once again! Maybe I'd have a chance! Haha! Oh well, that's all for my boring update. Cizo.
Saturday, June 09, 2007
Pieces of me
There are some things inside me that I've never really told anyone, okay, maybe I did tell some, but those are little bits and pieces of the real matter. To illustrate it in terms of words would be a little bit of the puzzle theory. Don't know if there is a such thing as puzzle theory, but to me it's called the puzzle theory. Oh well, there's so many people which comes out with their own kind of theory each day and there are some which were evidently still make a name for themselves such as the Bernoulli, Archimedes and all sort of other theory. Don't know why they complicated the world so much. Oh well, it just seem like an "in thing" so let me add another theory: puzzle theory to further complicate things for you. Haha!
Whoa. So sorry to be straying off topic, alright, anyway without further rantings, here goes, puzzles has bits and pieces which once they have been put together they form a picture. On it's own, each piece on their own not make any sense. Therefore, there are things which I've rant about that are sorta like bits and pieces which you guys don't seem to understand much about me and certain things, how I feel. Am I a ticking bomb waiting to explode? Or am I the person you think I am?
On another note, I think that's the puzzle theory applies to the way how I look at God, like a puzzle. I try so hard to understand the bible and sometimes some things just doesn't make sense; I find some passage irrelevant to apply to my life. So I just give up reading on that section. Same goes when I try so hard, even hours sometimes just trying to join a piece of puzzle to another. And every little piece of puzzle have their own unique side, which plays a different role to complete the puzzle and it gets so hard that I sometimes feel like just giving up on finishing the puzzle. And this applies to the attitude I have when I am learning God's word. Very frequently I ignore those part which I oppose strongly/find irrelevant, and those pieces of puzzle represents pieces of puzzle that was lost during that period of time when we leave the puzzle undone for a long time.
But I supposed that in the end when I finally finish the puzzle, that feeling is just indescribable, nothing could define the joy that I felt. And when I finally see the picture behind those little bits and pieces, seeing the beauty of it, is just satisfying. After all the hard work put into the puzzle. Therefore, I've always pictured myself that at the end of the race, I would look back at the ups and downs in my life and say to myself, "A good job, well done."
I wish I could be that person which you never want to let go off.
Whoa. So sorry to be straying off topic, alright, anyway without further rantings, here goes, puzzles has bits and pieces which once they have been put together they form a picture. On it's own, each piece on their own not make any sense. Therefore, there are things which I've rant about that are sorta like bits and pieces which you guys don't seem to understand much about me and certain things, how I feel. Am I a ticking bomb waiting to explode? Or am I the person you think I am?
On another note, I think that's the puzzle theory applies to the way how I look at God, like a puzzle. I try so hard to understand the bible and sometimes some things just doesn't make sense; I find some passage irrelevant to apply to my life. So I just give up reading on that section. Same goes when I try so hard, even hours sometimes just trying to join a piece of puzzle to another. And every little piece of puzzle have their own unique side, which plays a different role to complete the puzzle and it gets so hard that I sometimes feel like just giving up on finishing the puzzle. And this applies to the attitude I have when I am learning God's word. Very frequently I ignore those part which I oppose strongly/find irrelevant, and those pieces of puzzle represents pieces of puzzle that was lost during that period of time when we leave the puzzle undone for a long time.
But I supposed that in the end when I finally finish the puzzle, that feeling is just indescribable, nothing could define the joy that I felt. And when I finally see the picture behind those little bits and pieces, seeing the beauty of it, is just satisfying. After all the hard work put into the puzzle. Therefore, I've always pictured myself that at the end of the race, I would look back at the ups and downs in my life and say to myself, "A good job, well done."
I wish I could be that person which you never want to let go off.
Thursday, June 07, 2007
Boredom.
Haha, saw Yee Meng's and Tee keat's results for this test, and I guess it was accurate to what they were studying. Decided to try it out. And this is what I got. O.o
| Your Learning Style: Personal and Passionate |
 You are very flexible and curious about the world. Human understanding is very important to you. You Should Study: Anthropology Architecture Art Art history Art therapy Classics Counseling Foreign Languages and Literature International Studies Linguistics Literature Psychology Sociology Teaching |
Never seen myself really pursuing any of the above.
Haha, the results isn't what I've expected it to be. Bleahh.
Haha, the results isn't what I've expected it to be. Bleahh.
Quotes
"When I get home people will ask me, "Hey Hoot, why do you do it man? Why? You some war junkie?" You know what I'll say? I won't say a goddamn word. Why? They won't understand. They won't understand why we do it. They won't understand that it's about the men next to you, and that's it. That's all it is." - Black Hawk Down (2001) by Sfc. Norm 'Hoot' Hooten.
Isn't it just so relevant. I'm sure all of us has pursue something that others don't seem to understand why, but we still do it. Huge sacrifices for something which has such a simple explanation. When it's the pure truth and people find it an unacceptable reason, it reaches a point that there's nothing else we could do, so to speak; because it's already a fact that they don't seem to understand our motives and actions in the first place.
I guess, somethings are just meant to be kept a mystery..no?
Before I sign out, for those who still doubt that they can't be able to write poems.
Here's a saying that goes,
"At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet." - Plato.
Isn't it just so relevant. I'm sure all of us has pursue something that others don't seem to understand why, but we still do it. Huge sacrifices for something which has such a simple explanation. When it's the pure truth and people find it an unacceptable reason, it reaches a point that there's nothing else we could do, so to speak; because it's already a fact that they don't seem to understand our motives and actions in the first place.
I guess, somethings are just meant to be kept a mystery..no?
Before I sign out, for those who still doubt that they can't be able to write poems.
Here's a saying that goes,
"At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet." - Plato.
Monday, June 04, 2007
What's the point?
If I have a target to achieve my goals, and something gets into the way which I could have avoided but I let it happened. Does that mean I would not be able to reach my goal to the same extend that I wanted it to be because of the certain incident that happened? Is there any other way to reach that goal that I have set, or would it mean that I will never be able to reach that target that I have set.
Because I had to let that incident happen, does that means that I would now not be able to reach that same level which I ought to reach? Or I would be able to reach that goal of mine, but only at a longer period of time.
But, due to the fact that I took a longer period of time to achieve my goal means that my other goals would have been pushed back further and it goes on and on. A continuous cycle; so to speak.
So what should a person do to understand that we've just gotta move on with life and get over it? And if I (being the person) have set the goal and I know that now I'll never get the chance to reach my ultimate goal (that's if everything goes as planned) What's the point of me striving any more to reach my goal? because after all I would never achieve my ultimate goal.
But people will say, "just continue pushing, even if you don't reach your ultimate goal, you're pretty close to it." BUT the point is I can NEVER reach my ultimate goal. So what's the point?
Should I just let everything else go and cry like a baby and regret about letting this incident happen? or is there any other way around this?
Feel free to drop a comment.
Because I had to let that incident happen, does that means that I would now not be able to reach that same level which I ought to reach? Or I would be able to reach that goal of mine, but only at a longer period of time.
But, due to the fact that I took a longer period of time to achieve my goal means that my other goals would have been pushed back further and it goes on and on. A continuous cycle; so to speak.
So what should a person do to understand that we've just gotta move on with life and get over it? And if I (being the person) have set the goal and I know that now I'll never get the chance to reach my ultimate goal (that's if everything goes as planned) What's the point of me striving any more to reach my goal? because after all I would never achieve my ultimate goal.
But people will say, "just continue pushing, even if you don't reach your ultimate goal, you're pretty close to it." BUT the point is I can NEVER reach my ultimate goal. So what's the point?
Should I just let everything else go and cry like a baby and regret about letting this incident happen? or is there any other way around this?
Feel free to drop a comment.
Sunday, June 03, 2007
Friendships
I feel bad that sometimes I just leave this blog hanging, knowing that I should spend more time rekindling little sentiments which recaptures fond memories in my life onto this blog. I've always wondered where this blog would be in five years. Would I still be blogging? Would I have changed my blog link? Well, I guess we've just gotta wait and see. =)
It's already been a week since I last blogged. Well nothing much that has happen which I feel is worth sharing I supposed. Just feels like things has been okay-lah, nothing great.
Yesterday was exciting though, Michael picked me up at about 11, and we reached Genting 2 hours later! hahaha, it's a record I guess, 2 hours just to reach Gohtong Jaya! Haha! We came back down 2 hours later. Damn crazy lah. But I guess the company was good.
On a different matter, I realized that in less than a month I would be off to Australia for 3 weeks without my parents tagging along. It's a first for me ! How cool is that eh? But then again, I'm still having my examinations which is still running until the 19th of June. Which totally isn't helping me to concentrate on my studies.
On a different note, friendships has always been something I cherished and the past week, I guess my friendship with certain friends has certainly increased and I'm glad about it. I realized that I've just gotta step out of my comfort zone and accept my friends for who they are. How righteous am I? How Christ-like am i?, when I criticize my friends when I already know their imperfections. I am supposed to be supporting them and help them, instead many times I've been a stumbling block.
Don't we realized that sometimes we can't accept our friends behaviour but on the other hand we want our friends to accept us for who we are? How selfish can we be at times? Hmm, just something to ponder on, maybe you'll ought to treat your friends which you've mistreated better. Maybe you could start with a friendly conversation, or even send a message, or be appreciative of your friends and say a little thank you. Slowly but surely, your friendship will blossom! Well, have a go at it. It wouldn't bite.
Have a good day mate'!
It's already been a week since I last blogged. Well nothing much that has happen which I feel is worth sharing I supposed. Just feels like things has been okay-lah, nothing great.
Yesterday was exciting though, Michael picked me up at about 11, and we reached Genting 2 hours later! hahaha, it's a record I guess, 2 hours just to reach Gohtong Jaya! Haha! We came back down 2 hours later. Damn crazy lah. But I guess the company was good.
On a different matter, I realized that in less than a month I would be off to Australia for 3 weeks without my parents tagging along. It's a first for me ! How cool is that eh? But then again, I'm still having my examinations which is still running until the 19th of June. Which totally isn't helping me to concentrate on my studies.
On a different note, friendships has always been something I cherished and the past week, I guess my friendship with certain friends has certainly increased and I'm glad about it. I realized that I've just gotta step out of my comfort zone and accept my friends for who they are. How righteous am I? How Christ-like am i?, when I criticize my friends when I already know their imperfections. I am supposed to be supporting them and help them, instead many times I've been a stumbling block.
Don't we realized that sometimes we can't accept our friends behaviour but on the other hand we want our friends to accept us for who we are? How selfish can we be at times? Hmm, just something to ponder on, maybe you'll ought to treat your friends which you've mistreated better. Maybe you could start with a friendly conversation, or even send a message, or be appreciative of your friends and say a little thank you. Slowly but surely, your friendship will blossom! Well, have a go at it. It wouldn't bite.
Have a good day mate'!
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